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Which acquired habits have had / is having the greatest positive influence in your life?

I'll start with two fairly basic ones:

- Getting a calendar that I'm comfortable with and started using it.

- Keeping track of my goals/habits in a digital mind map.

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Money & Financial Wealth / Best Business Books
« on: 2016 06 12 - 01:40 »
What books regarding Money, Wealth & Business have had the greatest positive influence on your life?

Here are some of my favorites:

- The Richest Man in Babylon - George Samuel Clason
- The Personal MBA - Josh Kaufman
- 4 Hour Work Week - Tim Ferriss
- Ready fire Aim! - Michael Masterson
- Ca$hvertising - Drew Eric Whitman

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General Discussion / Best Self Improvement Books
« on: 2016 06 11 - 11:12 »
What books have had the greatest positive influence on your life?
 
Here are some of my top ones to get started:
 
- Yes Man - Danny Wallace (Entertaining read and good message. The movie is a disastrous blasphemy of the book by the way.)
 
- The Greatest Salesman in the World - Og mandino
 
- Getting Things Done (This is a somewhat dry read but has some very practical ideas in it.)

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Let's collect all the best free online personality tests we can find in this topic.

There are many different types of personality tests.
I've only just started exploring personality tests (just as entertainment) but I will link to the couple of test's I've done this far.


MYERS BRIGGS TYPE INDICATOR (MBTI)
"A psychometric questionnaire designed to measure psychological preferences in how people perceive the world and make decisions."

16personalities.com

humanmetrics.com


TRAITIFY:
Fun test with a modern website.

traitify.com (Click on 'Try it today')


ENNEGRAM:

similarminds.com


BIG FIVE:
"Five broad domains or dimensions of personality that are used to describe human personality"

outofservice.com


If you know of some other good ones, please feel free to post them here.
Also feel free to share with us what type you got on MBTI, if you like.

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General Discussion / Forum Rules
« on: 2015 02 10 - 06:41 »
- No self-promotion / spam in order to keep posts of high value and quality.

- Posts should be regarding Personal Development, Wisdom Happiness and/or Excellence and preferably add value.

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Do you know of a smartphone app that can contribute to Personal Development? Please list it here.

Being an Android-user, the links I provide may in some cases be for Android-versions of the apps, but many may be available for other OS as well.

Here are a few to start with:

Evernote - Cloud-based note-taking.

DuoLingo - For learning new languages in a fun game-related way.

Papyrus - A nice note-taking app, especially if you have a pen for your device.


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Philosophy, Wisdom & Happiness / Wisdom
« on: 2013 09 18 - 08:55 »
Let us gather most of our Wisdom-related posts in this one thread.


Here is a link to Life Advice from 18 of the wealthiest People in history.
There are a few great nuggets of wisdom in there:

 Life Advice from 18 of the wealthiest People in history

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General Discussion / How to help making this forum grow!
« on: 2013 07 31 - 02:32 »
We can all join in and make this forum grow!  8)

Simple ways to help making this forum grow:


1: Go back to our homepage (or any thread you particularly like). From there, use the "Share-flap/tab" which you can always see attached to the very left edge of your browser window on this website. See it? Yes look all the way to the left!  ;) You can use this to Like us on Facebook or Tweet and so on.

2: Got your own website or blog? Please add a link pointing to this forum. You can also add links pointing here in your other forum-signatures.

3: Please register, if you haven't already done so, and also spread the word in any ways you can!

These things will help bringing more people here which will generate even more productive conversations! Thanks!  :)

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Let's collect the best life-hack-videos here.

Here are some great ones from householdhacker.tv:

Quick and Simple Life Hacks - Part 1

Quick and Simple Life Hacks - Part 2

Quick and Simple Life Hacks - Part 3

Quick and Simple Life Hacks - Part 4

Quick and Simple Life Hacks - Part 5 (6 Ways to Open a Bottle without an opener)

Quick and Simple Life Hacks - Part 6 (7 ways to open a Wine bottle without a corkscrew)

Quick and Simple Life Hacks - Part 7

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Physical Health & Skills / Yoga - General information
« on: 2013 03 20 - 14:26 »
Here are some nice InfoGraphics on Yoga



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Giving great gifts and presents - A stress-free way



Benefits of applying this knowledge:
• Less stress due to last minute shopping.
• Save money by shopping well outside of holidays-seasons.
• Happier recipients due to better gifts.
• Kick back and relax before and during Holidays.

 General information:

• Take a moment and think through all the people you normally buy gifts to throughout the year (family-members, friends and so on).
• Acquire a little notebook or a create a text-file and create a master gift-list with the following information:
 • Recipient names (with birthday-dates)
 • Occasions
 • Gifts given
 • Gift-ideas for future
• In this file you can jot down ideas for gifts and also keep track of what you have already given to whom.
• Don’t put too much emphasis on Mothers/Fathers-day and other holidays mainly “invented” to create commerce. To not be overwhelmed, heed only the big ones like Christmas and Birthday.
• You may soon find that a similar gift you bought for John two years ago, may be appreciated by Jane this year. There is no shame in identical gifts to more than one person, as long as you believe the recipients will appreciate the items.
• When a gift-idea strikes you. Rather than being sure you will remember it even a week from now, write it down immediately. If you don’t have your notebook around, jot it down on any piece of paper to be transferred to your notebook later.
• Have your inner “gift-radar” turned on all year round. It does not mean you always should actively search for gifts, just allow a little bit of “gift-awareness” linger in the back of your head, all year round.
• Keep you ears open. Sometimes a potential gift recipient will mention or hint on something that they would like to have, without even meaning it to be a recommendation for you. Be alert and write it down (discreetly).
• At those random occasions when you happen to spot an item and think: “Oh, I think John would really like this thing!”, then buy it right away! If you wait you are likely to forget about it or the item may become sold out. Ask if you can have it gift-wrapped and simply store the package for a suitable occasion.
• If for some reason it is not suitable to buy the item right away (In case of food-items which should be fresh, or more expensive items where a fresh receipt for optional returns or exchanges could be handy), then make sure to write down a reminder note. Don’t count on remembering it in time for a holiday or this person’s birthday.
• By purchasing suitable gifts at the moment you encounter them, you save yourself a lot of hassle and stress. You won’t have to endure the throng of holiday-shopping or the stress of last minute birthday-shopping.
• By buying suitable gifts at the moment you encounter them you actually buy things you believe the recipient will appreciate, rather than feeling forced to buy something just for the sake of it. This will make the recipient happy by getting a gift he/she really is likely to enjoy and also for you being so thoughtful.
• When you discover an item at a good price which you think many people would enjoy, consider “stocking up” and buy a multitude of it.
• Keep the presents in one place.  Select a storage-place; Dedicate a “Gift-closet”, a cupboard or a drawer in the household where you can stockpile your gifts. Gift wrap and -stickers can also be stored in this one location.
 If you pre-wrap the gifts, make sure you have some way of remembering what is inside.
• Having a little stock of one-suits-all emergency-gifts is a comforting feeling. It saves you a lot of stress in case you are invited to a birthday or occasion you had forgotten about or didn’t plan to be invited to.
• With this foresight you will save money by being able to buy stuff for bargain-prices rather than just in time for holidays when the prices are generally higher.
• Consider marking your calendar at least a month ahead of an important persons birthday (or other occasion). This way, If you have not already a particular gift in store or in your notes, you can brainstorm (without stress) for ideas and still have time to order something needing to be shipped.
• Even when applying this advice you may still find yourself short on time sometimes. You can then use Brainstorming to come up for gift-ideas.
• Maybe you have items in your home which you think would be more appreciated by someone else? Great if you do!
 Just don’t try to pass an item off as being new, if it isn’t new.  A gift does not necessarily have to be either new or expensive to be appreciated.
• Remember that gifts does not have to be physical items. Gifts can also include services (i.e. massage, pedicure etc.) or experiences (i.e: skydiving, a hot-air balloon ride or  theater-ticket etc).
• If you are short on money or ideas, baking something is an option that is often appreciated.
• If you are good at handcrafting something, those types of gifts shows that you have put time, thought and effort into the gift and are often highly adored. However, unless you have a lot of spare time this option may not be practically feasible for all occasions.
• Consider writing short rhyme-riddles on Christmas-gifts, and let the recipients read the riddle and take a guess before they unwrap.  It is a fun little bonus and often very appreciated. If you don’t take it too seriously rhyming is easier and takes less time than you may think.
• Feel free to make adjustments to these ideas and develop a system that works well for you personally.
• As much as people like receiving gifts at holidays and birthdays, keep in mind: Ofttimes, a gift is mostly appreciated when it is given on a random day, for no other reason than wanting to give.


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Practical, Life hacks & Tools / Declutter a room
« on: 2012 12 22 - 10:18 »
How to declutter a room and get organized



Benefits of applying this knowledge:
• Maintain an organized room with less need for major decluttering.
• Save time by not having to search for misplaced items. You will know where your stuff is and find what you need immediately.
• Peace of mind. Physical junk weighs you down emotionally, thus decluttering your room will have a decluttering effect on your mind as well.
• Since your outer world influences your inner world your mind becomes calm and clear.
• You will feel more at ease inviting people over and they will feel more at ease in your decluttered rooms.
 
Things to consider before starting:
• Keeping your room organized is actually less work than not to do so. So if you are lazy / practical, then keep stuff tidy!
• Rid yourself of everything that isn’t absolutely essential, that you don’t love and use often.  If you have not used an item in two years time, it is unlikely that you ever will. You will probably not miss it, so seriously consider getting rid of it.
• Either start today or make a note in your calendar for a specific date and a time you will start decluttering. Just saying “Some day…” is a recipe  for failure.
 Setting a date does not mean that all decluttering has to be completed at the set date, only that you will start, even if it is just for 15 minutes on one shelf.
• Don’t allow more stuff into your home unless it really adds value to your life. You can even set a rule that for every item you bring to your home, you have to get rid of one (or two if you are hardcore!) other item you already possess.
• Tackle one room at a time, and only one small section of the room at a time.
 Focusing on a small area at a time is less daunting than trying to take on a big cluttered room.
• If you don’t have the energy for a long session, you can choose to just deal with one small area this day.  Even if you do only one shelf or drawer or cupboard each day – small efforts each day will eventually make a big difference.
 
Assigning “Homes” for your items:
• A great way to keep a room from becoming cluttered is to assign a “home” for every single item.
• A “home” is an area you have decided that this item actually belongs – A default space where the item is suitable.
• A home can, for example, be a certain place on your desk, your book-shelf, or somewhere in a cupboard, drawer or other container.
• What is clutter? It is when things are not where they are supposed to be.
 So as long as all the items remain in their homes the room will not be cluttered!
• Having a home for each item not only keeps your room tidy, it also helps you find your stuff a lot quicker when you know exactly where stuff is.
• Whenever you acquire a new item, you should make a habit of assigning a home for it.
• Be a bit clever when assigning homes. Put stuff you use most on places where they are conveniently reached.
 I.e. washing-powder near the washing-machine, the pans and pots close to the stove and so on.
• You may later discover that some items you move may require multiple homes.
 For example, a book you like to read in different rooms.
 Having two or three potential places will still be better than looking everywhere for it. However, don’t worry about this to begin with.
• After using an item be rigorous about putting it back to its default space – its “home”.
 

 General information:

• If you like you can put on some music, which tends to put you in an energetic mood.
• Get 4 big boxes, bags or simply make room for 4 piles on the floor and assign one for the following:
    - Give / Sell – Everything you intend to either sell or give away.
    - Throw away – Everything you intend to throw away.
    - Store / Archive – Everything you intend to store / archive for future use or reference.
    - To do – Everything you need to take care of in some manner.
• Should you feel that you need some additional container (i.e. for laundry), go ahead and add it to the above ones. However, try to keep the number of  “extra” containers to a minimum or things can get confusing.
• Do not let not finding containers be an excuse to stop you. If you can’t find any suitable containers, simply make piles on the floor.
• Go through the room clockwise, one small area at a time.

 Declutter a room one small area at a time. height=350


• Start by standing in the doorway of the room.  Now look at the square meter area immediately to your left and start there.
• Start from the top working your way downwards item by item. Stop at every single item and asking yourself: “Have I used this item during the last two years?” If not, seriously consider getting rid of it.
• If you have several items that are similar, ask yourself if you really need x amount of this item or can you get by with one or two?
• If an item has sentimental value ask yourself how often do you really bring that item up into your hands and indulge in it.
 Remember that one can hold on to a memory without keeping an item. If you still feel you really can’t get let go of it, then take a photo of it, or scan it (if it is a paper) and rid yourself of the physical three-dimensional object that is taking up space.
• When you encounter an item you are determined to keep then ask yourself: “Is this a good place for this item to be?”
 If not, assign a new “home” for it. If you cannot immediately come up with a good home, then put the item in the “To do”-box and take care of it later.
• If an item belongs in another room or building, don’t waste time on it now, just put it in the ‘To do’ -box for now, and deal with it later.
• It can be tempting to skip unremarkable or difficult objects but don’t do it! Be thorough and DON”T skip one single item. Take care of each item before moving on to the next.
• When you are done with this square meter, move along the wall clockwise to the next square meter and repeat  throughout the whole room.
• Skip drawers and cupboards and other closed containers during the first “round”.
 Go through such enclosed storage-spaces in a second round.
 The idea is to clear the larger areas first to see the biggest change quickly, thus giving you a mental boost to continue.
• The first round is all about the big picture. Don’t loose your momentum by getting caught up in small details like assigning homes or going through papers or binders. Put any time-consuming items into the “To do”-box and deal with those later. You should only focus on fairly swiftly moving through the room at this stage.
• Try not to stop moving for too long (It makes you work more efficiently). Resist the temptation of browsing through a book or an old letter or such. Don’t get sidetracked. Keep your focus on tidying the room!
• When one of your boxes or bags get too full, it is time to either deal with it to get it empty again, or to put it outside the room for now and replace it with a new and empty container.
• Keep going until every item in your room is either in one of the boxes or at a place (home) you have assigned for it in the room.
• Keep your spirits high even if it takes time. A messy room may very well need more than one day to go through.
 Focus on the progress you are making and let that momentum inspire you to go on until the current room is completely done.
• Clear one room before moving on to the next.
 
Dealing with the boxes, bags or piles:
• When you are done with the room, it is time to take care of the boxes. This part is important so make sure you deal with it!
• Start by sorting the garbage and throw it away.
• Put any laundry into the washer.
• Continue with the “give away”-pile and put all that in a suitable container to be brought to a suitable charity.
• Make ready adverts for the stuff you want to sell.
 
Preventing future clutter build up:
• If you have assigned homes for all your stuff and are making sure to return items to their assigned space, then your room should stay tidy. Some future cluttering may be unavoidable, but it will be much less of it to deal with.
• When a room is only mildly cluttered a good habit is to grab just one or two of the misplaced  items and putting them where they belong every time you happen to pass by. By doing such small efforts continually, your room will remain tidy.
• Use times when you are waiting (for example, for water to boil in the kitchen) by taking a quick look around to see if there are things you can declutter, rather than just linger.
• Visit an office-supply store to buy a hole-maker and a ring binder (you may eventually need two or three) with indexes and mark the back of it with the current year.  Use the binder to store any papers you can’t throw away.
 Don’t keep more than two (or three) binders. One for the current year and one for last year. When a new year begins, throw out the stuff in the old one and make it the current-year binder.
 That being said, one third binder could be kept for tax-related stuff and long-lasting warranties and the like.
• If you share a home with other people, take a few minutes to (tactfully) explain that you would like to have an uncluttered home and ask for their help. Then let them know about your suggested homes for items (Do this diplomatically).


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Physical Health & Skills / Running-technique
« on: 2012 12 22 - 10:15 »
Running-technique


Proper foot strike height=300
Proper foot strike.


Benefits of applying this knowledge:

• Use less energy to run fast.
• Reduce the risk of pain and injuries.
• Avoid “braking” with every step.
• Use your body’s natural shock absorption.
• Minimize the up and down “bouncing” with each stride.
• Distribute running workload optimally to avoid fatigue.
 
 
General information:
• Running similar to how children and some barefoot tribes/hunters naturally run is efficient and prevents injuries.
• An old belief used to be that longer strides equal faster runners, but this is more likely to result in injuries and extra energy-consumption.
• Physics state that if your foot lands in front of your body’s center of mass it will act like a brake. If you stretch your leg out further you are more likely to land on your heel, and since the leg is more extended the knee will be less enabled to perform its shock-absorbing function.
• An out in front foot strike is causing excessive muscle use and is more prone to cause injuries.  Furthermore, it puts the leg almost in direct line with the body’s motion and will thus receive a great amount of impact stress.
 Running technique height=350
Running technique -braking momentum and jolting joints.


• An efficient runner takes relatively short but frequent strides. This minimizes braking and bouncing.
• Runners should seek to imitate the motion of a “wheel” which moves smoothly forward rather than bounces.
• Leaning forwards slightly (rather than running vertically upright as most of us tend to do) brings the body a natural forward momentum.
• Leaning forward more will increase propulsion (forward motion energy) and result in faster running speed.
 By cooperating with the force of gravity it propels you forward without having to use your leg-muscles nearly as much.
 Correct running technique height=350
Correct running technique flows smoothly with less effort


• “Bouncing” up and down with every stride wastes energy and increases impact stress on landing. Learn to run with a smooth horizontal flow.


 
Running techniques posture & "bouncing" comparison


Running shoes:
• Shoes add weight and mass to the foot which slows down the runner.
• Shoes provide support, which doesn’t allow the foot to strengthen and support itself.
• Like wearing thick mittens, wearing shoes also reduce proprioception – the body’s awareness of itself to its environment.
• Traditionally, running-shoes has elevated heels, which has conditioned most of us to strike down with the heel first (Heel-strike).
 Running barefoot or with non-elevated heels creates a more natural running technique, strengthens muscles tendons and ligaments of the foot and promotes a natural running-motion which is less prone to injury.
• There are, however, running shoes available with a minimal sole to emulate running barefoot, yet provides a sole just thick enough to protect your feet from sharp items, sores and weather-conditions. These promote a natural running-style.
Vibram VFF height=250
Vibram Five Finger Shoes

Women's Vibram Shoes height=250
Women's Vibram Shoes 

 
 

 Types of foot strikes:

Heel-strike: The most common type of foot strike. Brakes momentum. Hard strike prone to cause pain or injury.
Mid-foot strike: This is preferred. A good mid-foot strike is when most of the impact is handled by the ball of your foot (forefoot) while the heel only slightly touches the ground.
Forefoot / Toe-strike: Also preferred over heel-strike but overdoing it, by relying only on the forefoot for support, could put much stress on the calves as well as the Achilles tendon.
• Natural running involves the mid-foot /forefoot strike. Make sure you are landing mainly on your forefoot / mid-foot rather than your heels. Avoid striking ground with the heel first since the human heel pad is not absorbing much of the force of impact and will thus transmit a shock all the way through the leg to the knee and the hip, eventually causing pain.
 Running foot strike height=350
Running foot strike pressure distribution


How to apply a good running technique:

• Re-adjusting to a natural running-technique may initially make your body sore. Anytime you change your technique, your body will need time to adapt, so start carefully with shorter runs to get accustomed to it. If you are new to running barefoot, you can begin conditioning your soles by simply walking barefoot.
• Achilles tendonitis (pain in the heel-tendons) is a common injury when changing techniques too fast. So again, make the adaption very gradually and carefully.
• Start by standing up straight with feet parallel. Now straighten your stance by making you as tall as you can, giving you a good aligned posture.
• Now, tilt your body slightly forwards and let your legs “fall” forward into a natural running motion. Maintain this straight (from the waist up) but forward-tilted posture while running.
• With your knees slightly bent, let your feet land right below the center of your body, or even slightly behind, rather than in front of it.
• Do not let your feet land in front of your hip since this will make the leg brake the body’s forward momentum.
•  When the foot comes down it should preferably already be heading towards your rear. Landing with the foot and leg directly in the push-off position, minimizes contact time between the feet and the ground, and landing and push-off becomes a smooth single moment.
• At the end of each stride, letting the heels naturally flick back towards your buttocks will help in creating a smooth elliptical foot motion.
 Correct running technique height=350
Correct running technique - foot landing below the waist


• A good and soft foot strike is less audible (on a floor) so you can try to “quiet” your strides. Just touch the ground lightly and then lift your feet as if running on hot coals. Aim towards “floating” across the ground with less impact.
• Keep your eyes looking forward to where you want to go, rather than down. This will help pulling your body forward, and you will breathe easier.
• Try taking deep breaths to bring as much oxygen to your lunges as possible and stay energized.
• Minimize torso-rotation/movement. Keep your elbows bent and let arms swing back and forth and not so much right and left as some runners have a tendency to do.

 “Running is just a controlled forward fall”

 - Born to run

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Identity - Choosing your own identity - Being your ideal You

Benefits of applying this knowledge:
• Actualize the vision of your ideal self.
• Be the director of your own personality and behavior.
• Make decisions easier by knowing your values.
• Be more centered as a person.
• Improved self-awareness and clearer life-direction.
• Other goal-setting will be easier when you who you want to be.

 General info:

• Most people wander through life without ever making a conscious decision about who they really want to be and how they want to be perceived. One may catch brief wishes and idle desires, but for the most part we all just float along unaware that our identities are at large being molded by outside forces (external factors) rather than our own inner forces.
Media, advertising, television, social pressure, upbringing, family, friends, teachers, religion and society’s rules are some example of outside forces paying a part in molding our identity.
• As long as we are unaware of the power of external influence, we are like pieces of clay, being unconsciously molded to fit into the preferred norms of someone else’s reality. That is not an evil conspiracy or plot – it is just the way the world usually works.
• The degree to which we are able to create our own identity rather than having it imposed on us is dependent on opportunity, awareness and taking responsibility for ones self. When we are aware of the possibility, we can take responsibility and make empowered choices that best server ourselves rather than people and systems outside of ourselves.
• Before doing other profound goal-setting, it is important to know what visions and ideals you have for yourself as a person, since this will likely influence all other choices and goals you set.
• Your task is to come up with a list of character-traits (or a character-description if you like) that you would like to nurture and expand within your own personality. Awareness itself will increase your chances for results.

 Role-models:

• To help us find out what values we really appreciate and come up with a list, we can use the help of role-models.  You can probably think of some people whose demeanor, behavior, and values are inspiring and motivating for you.
• Do a brief (5-15m) brainstorming-session on which people you most admire. The characters can be real or imaginary, living or dead. Anyone from Buddha and Gandhi, to Superman or your grandpa “Joe” will do. Try to think of about 3 to 10 characters.
• If you find it hard to come up with role-models, ask yourself: ‘If I could live a day in another persons life, which one would it be?’ or ‘If I could meet one person, who would it be?’.
• Now go through one Role-model at a time. Think about what it is about them that you admire and write it down. Is it the way they dress, their voice, their dance-moves or, more likely, their character-traits, like warmth, comradely, loyalty, humor, resourcefulness or anything you can think of.
Here are a few examples:
MacGyver:
 Warmth, Helpfulness, Innovativity, Friendliness, Positive outlook, Resourcefulness, Flexibility, Adventure-spirit.
 Mother Theresa:Compassion, Warmth, Generosity, Helpfulness, Dedication, Friendliness.Grandpa “Joe”:
 Humor, Directness, Warmth, Compassion, Hospitality, Friendliness, Storytelling-abilities, Generosity.
• You may discover tendencies and similarities amongst the characters you admire. These are likely to be some of the traits you most value in a person, and thus makes sense to strive to nourish within yourself.
Some may argue: “But will I not just end up a bleak copy of the person I try to emulate?”. Don’t worry. Emulating someone else’s good traits will not take away from your own uniqueness, it will rather add more richness to your unique personality. The point is not to make yourself a clone of someone else. Just pick and choose the traits you like best from the people you like best.

 Imagine your funeral:

• While this may not seem like a jolly subject,  “beginning with the end in mind” is a useful trick which makes it easier for the mind to fill in the steps needed between where we are and where we need to be.
• Imagine your eulogy (the speech other people make) at your own funeral. What would your friends say about you? What would you like them to say? Your family? Your Co-workers?  What character-traits would you need to change for you to become the person you would like them to describe?
• What should you change in the way you conduct yourself to be remembered the way you like to be remembered? Only by changing the way you live will you be able to create the legacy you want to leave.

Make a list:
• Compile a list of these traits and qualities and choose a few which you consider to be the most important to incorporate or nurture within your own personality.
• Now dig a little deeper. Take a while to ponder how you could incorporate the selected traits and behaviors into your everyday life in a way that gives them more prominence within yourself. Think through a normal day of your life; Think about the situations and people you are likely to encounter and imagine how you would act in those situations, being the ideal version of yourself.
• If you want to you may write or print this list and put it somewhere where you will be reminded of these character-traits that you want to become a bigger part of who you are.
• Now that the thinking and writing is done it is time to to start doing and being.
• Refrain from the belief that it has to take years to make changes in your behavior. For the most part, it is that very belief itself that slows you down, not reality.
 Give yourself 30 seconds to change. Yes 30 seconds! From then on start acting according to your new ideals.
 You may fail from time to time, and that is ok. Just correct course and keep at it.
• During the day you may ask yourself: How would “Suitable Role-model” act in this situation?
• Play the part of the “character” until it becomes natural to you. If you must pretend at first, so be it. “Fake it till you make it” is a common for good reasons.
 Behaving in new ways may feel false at first, but with practice you will transform. By the time it feels natural it has become part of who you really are and you have truly gained the character trait you once desired!
“If you want to become someone different, just start acting like the person you want to be. It’s like that business motto “fake it till you make it” but it works on a spiritual and ethical level as well.” – AJ Jacobs
• If your new and chosen character-traits are far from who you have been up to now, be prepared to encounter some resistance or surprise from people who are used to your old self. Don’t let this discourage you. Be bold enough to act according to your own ideals and character-traits that you have decided to be a part of you.
• Revise this character-study of “who” you want to be as often as you like. A year from now you may have discovered better ideals, or actually grown enough, to chose new challenges.
• Keep improving yourself and eventually you may find yourself being a role-model to others.
 
“When I was a young man, I wanted to change the world.
 I found it was difficult to change the world, so I tried to change my nation.
When I found I couldn’t change the nation, I began to focus on my town.
 I couldn’t change the town and as an older man, I tried to change my family.
Now, as an old man, I realize the only thing I can change is myself,
 and suddenly I realize that if long ago I had changed myself,
 I could have made an impact on my family.
 My family and I could have made an impact on our town.
 Their impact could have changed the nation and I could indeed have changed the world.”
- Unknown Monk (1100 A.D.)

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