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Following Through
« on: 2013 03 14 - 03:08 »
Hi everyone,
 
I have a question to ask. Do any of you find it hard to follow through on your good intentions (eg New Years Resolutions)? If not, what do you do to make sure you follow through?
Im asking because I often read a great book and think "I really want to apply those techniques cos I know they will make a difference", then 1 week later I'm reading a different book wondering why things don't improve!
 
Please tell me I'm not the only one! Haha!
 
Thanx,
Paula Cummings


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Re: Following Through
« Reply #1 on: 2013 03 15 - 05:27 »
The best habit I've come across is to make a decision. If it's worth doing, do it now or schedule it now. It's not always possible but it has decreased the number of good things that slip away.

Ken   

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Re: Following Through
« Reply #2 on: 2013 03 15 - 09:43 »
Very good question. Thank you for contributing to the forum. :-)

I can totally relate to what you are saying so you are not the only one. ;-)

Ken gives splendid advice when he says 'Do it now or schedule it now'.

Here are some more pointers:

- Take on fewer "resolutions". Focus more on fewer things.
- As for applying things you read, use a highlighter pen when you are reading. Then, when you are done reading (and highlighting) the book - write down and compile your highlights into notes.
- If something takes less than two minutes to do, do it now, otherwise write it down.
- Keep a list / "pipeline" (either in a mobile digital device or on paper) where you write down things to do which you won't do or schedule right now.
- We (me included) are often too eager to acquire more information but we should rather spend more time contemplating and applying what we read to really learn and "install" it.
- As for developing new habits a good idea could be to choose one habit and focus it for a month (or whatever time-frame seems suitable) to get it cemented into your behaviour. Next month you go for another one and so on...
- A splendid book on similar things is 'Getting Things Done' by David Allen.
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Re: Following Through
« Reply #3 on: 2013 03 19 - 18:16 »
i always seem to say to myself "oh yes i will do that, that will hekps things and mean that there is less for me to do at other times" but i always seem to lack the right motivation to do it and never get the things done that i have promised myself and other people i will.
i don't know how i can get the motivation that is needed to do the things i need to do though, and even when i try my best, even if its just doing a quick tidy of my bedroom, i can't seem to do it.
i have made many new years resalutions over the years, and have never even started them, dieting i might get a day or two and then go back to eating rubbish, the same with exciersize.
so, no you are not the only one :D
i just wish i could find more ways to motivate myself to do things that need to be done, and not keep putting them off and hoping that if i do that they'll go away.

i think one of the best ways to do this though, would be to try and take things slowly and in small steps, like with tidying, focus on doing dishes first, and then once they are done move on to something else, and if you have then lost any form of motivation at least you can say to yourself "well that is something out of the way" and by doing this and getting a little more done each day you will eventually find that you can do almost everything to need to, when you need to :D

i hope this has some input in to what you where saying :D

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Re: Following Through
« Reply #4 on: 2013 06 19 - 03:00 »
All the answers so far have a little nugget in them that will help with getting things done, so what I have to say will touch on some of them.

I never bother with new year resolutions because they are normally made because it seems to be the thing to do, and most people never follow them through anyway. It is better to let January pass and then use February to plan your new ideas for the year.

Anything that you read that inspires you to make a change in your life needs to be written down into a plan, preferably in a step by step form. Then it needs to be included in your daily or weekly routines as that is the only way you will get it done.

I have always wanted to write a self help book and until I included into my everyday schedule, I just kept on wanting to write it. I scheduled an hour a day to write and within a month I had a book ready to format and proof read. It is now published and I am writing my second book. If I had not taken the time to adapt my everyday routine to accommodate the writing, then I would still be wanting to write it.

Whether it is exercise or studying for a new career the only thing that makes it happen is action and making the daily or weekly time to take the action needed is the only way we will take that action.

I hope this helps.

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Re: Following Through
« Reply #5 on: 2013 06 21 - 20:39 »
Well the best thing to do is always stay focused and continue to be consistent.

Sometimes we lose sight of our goals and we don't know what's important anymore.

You will discover ways to become focused and hit your intentions every time.

See, being focused is not about worrying about what's not happening, but what is going to happen!

So don't get discourage, I believe this is for you...

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Re: Following Through
« Reply #6 on: 2013 07 16 - 13:50 »
Hi,
I also agree with what has been said.  I've found that making changes is not easy.  It takes a commitment.  As said above, trying to make to many changes at the same time is a recipe for failure.  Pick one or two things.  Write out your goal (smart goal) that includes incremental steps of things to be accomplished.  Track your progress so you know if you are on schedule or if you need to make adjustments.  I'm very goal oriented but find that I try to do to many things at the same time and something always falls through the cracks.

I found a website a few months ago that offers free smart goal forms. 

Dena

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Re: Following Through
« Reply #7 on: 2013 07 27 - 07:58 »
Hi,
Re: Goal setting

I find what has been said helpful. Moreover I would like to suggest a wonderful strategy 

by Zig Ziglar  on Setting Goals
There are few nice videos in Youtube on this.

Kindest,

Ravji

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Re: Following Through
« Reply #8 on: 2014 01 20 - 03:32 »
It can be difficult to follow through on any goals, especially if you set a lot.

Here's what I do, it works for me:

If I know I want to achieve a lot of things I make a huge list of what I'd like to achieve. Even 'pie in the sky stuff' I'll label this list my 'would be nice!' list, its my focus and where I'd like to head. It can be anything, personal goals, targets whatever really. I'll take this list and make a smaller subset of this list just 2-3 things that I'd like to do or make a habit every day. Then every day I'll make sure I do these things.

Some things I'll drop because they're not right for me (or I just don't like!) and others I'll keep. The point is I can see I'm making progress and doing this things I want to do to change everyday and because I have my 'would be nice' list I know I'm getting closer to my goals because this list gets smaller as I cross things off. It's not fool-proof but it really helps me work out if something I read and would like to do is just a fad or something I can stick to long term and change as a result.

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Re: Following Through
« Reply #9 on: 2014 02 03 - 15:25 »
I would say to start small. The smaller, the better. If you find yourself say, "Oh, that's too easy," great! Keep it that way. And then be consistent. Then eventually, you can build up to bigger goals.

For example, if you want to exercise, try just 5 minutes a day. If that's too much, you can even just do 1 minute a day. I know, 1 minute seems like nothing. But you're aiming for consistency, not results. You want progress. So once you succeed in a minute a day for maybe 3-4 days in a row, try adding a minute to it. Eventually, you'll be up to 5 minutes, 10 minutes, 15 minutes, 20 minutes, etc. Eventually, exercising feels normal. You gradually built on it to that point.

Another thing that helps is to use your willpower to shape your environment. Your environment can help you in your goals, or can hold you back. Find a friend who already exercises daily. Commit to running with the friend. As a consequence of not exercising, tell the friend that you owe them $50 for every day you miss. That friend will come after you, so you'll be more motivated to go. Have your workout clothes and equipment ready before you need to go (all ready for the entire week). Get a gym membership so that you'll feel like going since you spent the money on it. Join an exercise/sports group. You get the idea?

So basically, just make it easy enough for you to take that first step. When you get consistent enough, you can build up from there. When you tackle too much at once, it never works. You only have so much energy and conscious power. Use it wisely. :) Hope that helps!

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Re: Following Through
« Reply #10 on: 2014 02 17 - 14:29 »
I don't go for New Year Resolutions, look in the dictionary:
Resolution = a decision or determination.

Why make a decision once a year?

I say make a decision every single morning when you open your eyes, decide what type of day you are going to have, decide what you will contribute to the world today, decide to re-commit to your goals today.

Everything in life starts with a decision

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Re: Following Through
« Reply #11 on: 2014 03 13 - 18:11 »
Impressive replys here. Nuggets of knowledge all over this post. I encountered the same issue before. I was constantly looking for a new solution to attain my goals faster. I truly believe a lot of people do this. And once we find a valid solution to attain our goal, we talk ourselves out of it and say "it wont work" or "it can't be that easy". So we hit the books and jump to the next idea without following through with what we started. fast forward two months and NOTHING was accomplished lol. What worked for me was starting with little things and not go for the COMPLETE makeover. That's just too overwhelming. Baby steps works for me.

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Re: Following Through
« Reply #12 on: 2014 06 12 - 02:53 »
All great tips here!!


The additional insight I would add to these is to decide what actions are going to bring about your results, and then track how often you do those actions. Use your big goal as a compass to guide you in the right directions, and then focus on doing whatever action you need to do, and measure that.


Cheers


Josh

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Re: Following Through
« Reply #13 on: 2014 09 12 - 18:10 »
What everyone else has said is pretty spot on...you've got lots of little gems there - another thing I do is put sticky labels around with the words: Focus On ..... - this reminds me!!!  :)

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Re: Following Through
« Reply #14 on: 2014 10 02 - 10:32 »
Sometimes we have a hard time "following through" simply because our "goal" is so big - so far away - that it overwhelms us.

If that is the case, break it down into smaller, more manageable steps. This should actually be a part of the whole plan anyway since DAILY action is how we will reach our goals.

For example, let's just say a person has set out to lose 50 lbs. in the next 8 months. Dang! 50 lbs. is a LOT of weight to lose and one might give up before they even get started.

HOWEVER, if you break it down it becomes much more attainable.

For example: 50 lbs. over 8 months comes out to only 6.25 lbs. per month! And, to break it down even more, it then comes down to only 1.5 pounds per week (taking 4 weeks for a month) and .2 lbs. per day!

Though that may not happen exactly as you plan, it still DOES make it a lot easier to look at as something that you CAN do and, yes, this can be applied to ANY goal.

You always work BACK FROM your goal to break it down into daily/weekly/monthly activity.

I hope that helps! Whatever you do, always be sure to...

"Make it an AWESOME day! (Who else is going to do it for you?)"
Mike