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Offline TrueLifeDevelopment

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Self Actualization and Success!
« on: 2014 05 11 - 08:53 »


I hear a lot of people spouting off this new age aphorism "Just be yourself" and "Don't try to be something your not"....

And I can't believe how many of these people buy into it without realizing what complete and utter nonsense it is.

So how exactly does one "just be yourself?" or "not act like somebody else?"


Saying "Be yourself" and "Dont act like something your not" is a paradox that has no real meaning. Its new age individualist propaganda that is meant to stop peoples learning from others and break up our conscious sense of community and the shared experience of growth, which is characterized by sharing information and resources in our mutual learning experience in life, and helping one another to evolve.

You think you are empowering yourself by thinking in this misty feel good new age way of "just be yourself and (insert good thing that will happen because of it here)" but you are actually disempowering yourself by cutting yourself off from your sources of information which have actually built your very personality.  These sources are the people around you.

Think about it.  Where did you learn to talk the way you do?  Act the way you do and do the things you do?  Dress the way you do?  Think the way you do?  You sure as hell didn't come out of your moms womb doing it, and you sure as hell didnt come up with it all on your own!  If you were to truly not ever act like something you were not originally, you would still be a mental infant.  So if you really want to be truly yourself without acting like anyone else, go back to acting like a baby.  But you can't, its impossible to not have used what youve learned from other behavioral models youve picked up from other people in your life.  Its how our brains work, because its how we survive, and its how we evolve as characters. 

How could you possibly ever "not be yourself" ???  Seriously...think about it...You cant ever act like something you are not...You are always yourself no matter how you are acting and if you learned to do what you are doing from seeing someone else do it.  You cant ever not be yourself.  Everything you do is being yourself regardless of whether you picked it up from someone else you saw doing it or not, it always has been and always will be. And it was ALWAYS learned from other sources.

Sure we sometimes come up with stuff on our own.  But usually when weve done this it was inspired by something outside of ourselves as well.  So through direct modelling or inspiration, one way or another, your behaviors were learned from outside sources.

I buy many of the clothes I buy because I saw other people wearing ones like them and thought that they looked good on them, and could look good on me too.  Does that mean I'm being something I'm not?

I have plenty of mentors and teachers who have taught me how to do things and behave in certain ways that have helped me to evolve and succeed in life.  Does that mean I am not being myself and am acting like someone I'm not when I do so?

NO!  Life is a process of Self Actualization.  A process of BECOMING YOUR BEST SELF.  This happens through a long elaborate series of changes to your character.  The difference between those who succeed and those who do not, is that those who do not are not in control of these changes, so these changes are largely negative.  Those who choose to be in control of these changes make sure they are positive, and thus they succeed in life by self actualizing and becoming their idealized self. 

And that is really being true to yourself.  Not fearing adopting new behaviors because it seems like you are "being something you are not naturally"  But if you want to live in mental infancy go ahead, and you can bear the negative effects of refusing to grow as a human being.  However I for one prefer to evolve and succeed in life.  Because its a choice.  Everything in life is a choice.  And refusing to choose to change, doesnt mean that you wont change, and the choice wont be made for you, and when it is, it wont be in your favor.

So what will you choose?  Success or Failure?